People can die from asthma attacks, especially if they dont have access to their inhalers. Sounds like he's put up with so much already for your sake. The next step would be giving him flowers that set off his asthma. They likely thought my claims of abuse were unfounded at best and malicious at worst. NTA. My god. I'd recommend you completely cutoff your fam members, including the enablers that are ok to turn a blind eye because it's not something that impacts them directly. Your family members sound horrible, I'm so sorry you have to deal with them. Does your idiotic family not understand that they could have ended a human life cause of pranks ? (English is not my mother tongue, sorry for the spelling), So if he had an asthma attack, and had to be hospitalized, I guess they would deduce hes weak? Except that the fiance's side of the family hasn't done anything wrong that we know of, and maybe OP and her fiance want a wedding. Damn he must love you to have continued to be abused. Just a quick reminder to never brigade any sub, be that r/AmItheAsshole or another one. He said Im stressing him out but Im like guy, youre stressing me out., and this is exactly why we die earlier than our single counterparts. This wasn't a prank. I'll bet they're were planning the Bug Big Wedding Prank! Slashing tyres was a serious attack on his property (and incurred an unnecessary expense) and hiding his inhaler was playing russian roulette with his actual life. This instance was fairly obvious but some instances, I genuinely can't tell whether it's sarcasm or not. and her Mom Is a no better. And he'd be right to do so. They bullied him and did illegal things. Wtf did I even just read. Your family is not doing pranks they are awful bullys and terrorizing him. Bro thats kinda gay./s. Jump off that ledge! Calling him the soft college kid makes it seem like its more about their feelings of inferiority instead of making your fianc prove himself. "Family" doesn't mean anything. Slashing tires would definitely cost someone hundreds of dollars to replace. If they asked where he was, he was with his own family, but I was going to see them later. Are they going to hide to kid to see if he is a real father? You also suck for waiting this long but at least you have done something now. After that she got really jealous of my relationship with my. Agreed. Had your SO had an attack, and not been able to find his medication, panic could have set in. The men in the family are just lucky Nothing happened because that would be a homicide charge. NTA, the men in your family are full blown psychopaths. If I were Tim I'd be questioning the marriage with a hostile family like that. NTA and personally I'd go no contact. Your only punishment is not coming to the wedding? Wouldnt it increase their respect for both of them as a couple if that despicable quartet come out of this wedding with the ULTIMATE wedding favour, aka mug shots and restraining orders? These men are going to end up killing him. The truth is their pranks were expensive and hurtful - and nobody is laughing. Because that lifetime of stress kills us. Slashing someones tires is NOT a prank! AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come? This enraged him and our relationship never recovered. Deconditioning that crap takes time and effort and space and exposure to how people should behave - and guarantee that OP wasn't getting that guidance from the enabling mom. Just stuck a needle in my back and tapped me like a maple tree. None of those pranks are funny. It's their property". In addition to that, YTA for letting things get this bad. He told me how selfish i am and that he wont be coming if my mom is there and that i only got that scholarship because of him. I feel like the AH because I overreacted and probably couldve compromised for a day. NTA. TBH, if I were your fianc, I'd probably end the relationship if you DONT go NC with them, because they're literally dangerous to him. Keep things the way you have them for the wedding and keep them out of your life also. It seems uour fiance has been rejected from the toxic masculinity club. Her family is toxic. I think you all let it go to far before you stood up for him. Like men! I never got the impression OP wasnt supportive of the fianc. Its way past any reasonable persons definition of acceptable and moved straight to harassment. "My stepdad did what he could "I literally freaked out because I definitely want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried A woman has been slammed after uninviting her stepdad from her wedding, . But that is your SO's access to AIR. Tim should have filed a Police report!! Nothing about this is typical and they are just gonna fucking stop attempting to gaslight you about it. - Reddit, I mean GONDOR calls for aid!! Your poor fianc has been suffering. (ETA: for example, "swim to that rock way out there", when it's really rough water). If my husband do this to me one day, aka letting people bully me, he would find himself very lonely because I'll be gone. Damn your dad is awful. It doesn't matter. They punch down, not up. They literally could have killed him. What a sissy! They really need to understand that their action could have had serious consequence (luckily it didn't). I wouldn't want them anywhere near me or my SO. If these guys need to grunt and scratch their balls to show that they are real men let them - but these are not jokes. You need to distance your family from you and Tim or you might live to regret it. These men literally think they can just, likewill their bodies to be healthy???? They separated and very shortly after my dad started dating a women. not everyone uses them. In your future husband's shoes, I'd have walked away from this relationship after it became clear being a part of your life invited stuff like this from your family, frankly, although I'm happy for you that he did stick around. My life (in my childish head) was crushed. From the get go they assumed that Tim is "less of a manly man than them" so all those "tests and pranks" are just there to humiliate him and stroke their own over inflated ego. Agreed. He could have died. she's TA for allowing her husband to be treated so abhorrently. It eventually got sorted but seriously, what was the point? I wandered around saying "fucking men!" AITA for uninviting my cousin, brother, uncle and dad to my wedding over a prank? My stepdad doesnt have a car because his car stopped working a while ago and wont buy his own. Slashing his tyres? not that I fault OP when their family is coming down hard trying to convince OP its just a prank bro. NTA but uninviting them to the wedding is the bare minimum response. The way your parents have reacted is worse. Idiots. People really underestimate how fatal an asthma attack is. Congratulations on graduating, OP. Also your dad he wouldnt respect Tim anymore if he had to apologise to Tim?? Slashed tires and stolen inhalers aren't pranks, they're crimes. I'm autistic as well, and I agree that the /s helps a lot because we're at a point where I wouldn't be surprised either way. My relationship with my stepdad has been problematic from the very beginning. I have asthma and reading that gave me chills. My mom's husband who he despises for no good reason but has helped heal so many of my scars and has been more of a father figure will also be in attendance. NTA, and get security just in case if they even try to get in, The men in your family are assholes. Her family, her responsibilty. And they just showed you they've no idea where the line between pranks and fatal consequences is. Stick to your guns, because what happens if you decide to have kids and have a son?? I'm almost done and it's been a lifelong dream of my mother's to have her children graduate from college. Just they just seem like big bullies to me. I know at least two adult males who go by Timmy lmao. the stuff in the first paragraph was bullying but hiding his inhaler? But not to everyone. I am sure they have along with the mother. Press J to jump to the feed. Stand your ground, these assholes need to learn their actions have consequences. They shouldve had charges pressed on them for slashing his tires. From what you've said I sure don't. Risking death because your family is shit just isnt worth it in the long run. I hope you and your soon to be husband have a wonderful life together OP! That's your partner - and your family. At a guess, because lil Timmy isn't one of "them". Die on this hill. Your family needs some serious help. NTA. By the time the ambulance got to me they said my skin was super grey and if my blood oxygen level dropped any lower I I most likely would have died. OP has to show Tim that she is on his side no matter what. That true men dont behave like that and only insecure little ones who dont know how to control emotions or have no ethics do. This shit should've ended the moment it began. Fuck that that's why I have AAA. You joke, but men let their toxic/insecure masculinity come between them and lifesaving healthcare. Honestly we should make a sister sub for AITA. He's so nice he'd give you the inhaler from someone else's bag, you know, instead of the shirt off his own back. You don't have to tell me about how awful some doctors can be. and harmful. They took Tim on a 3 day trip and hid his inhaler. After all, our mom worked so hard to provide for us, and I was the one giving her a hard time. If he wont take care of himself, make sure youre both prepared for the consequences. Is he the type of man who is open and honest with you? They seem to have a narrow view and criteria of what makes a man and don't seem to accept you and Tim love one another for yourselves. I had a ton of brothers and a dad who were all involved in fishing, hunting, survival, etc. These are not funny pranks, these are "how much will you take?" Im sorry but the men in your life sound like misogynist AHs, leave them in the dust where they belong. Agreed. How was that not it for you? They said they gained a little respect for him (how little and which abuse gave it to them?!) This is NOT pranking its bullying pure and simple. They'll fit right in regardless. NTA. Your family is the king of gaslighting. Youre a bad girlfriend. And talking about seeing your life moving forward how will you feel when they start this pranking with your future kids? violence isnt just physical aggression against an individual.) And that's not even getting into how dangerous and stupid their "pranks" were. edit: words are hard and i could have made my comment way simpler. Feeling like your body is not getting enough oxygen is a scary ass experience, one that I would never wish on anyone. Take it from someone who has a nonexistent relationship with their sibling due to failed communications, it's not worth it. Lets cut the brake lines to see if hes a real man who can use the emergency brake! Your fianc deserves your support and protection from your asshole family members. Stay strong. Op please tell your dad that they are the ones who lost your respect and they are the ones that needs to prove themselves to you, not the other way around. Thanks for doubling down, Dad. Your fianc needs to know you have his back when it comes to people who are so awful to him for no real reason. Fuck people like this and their asinine 'pranks'. The men in your family are a bunch of nut jobs. a prank would be like. filling his car with balloons or something. Often time these kids grow up and explain that they behaved badly to get attention diverted from abuse of other people in the home. I wouldnt invite them either. Get away from your family, theyre even bigger assholes. I would sue those dumb asses. I hope that they see the error of their ways and apologized to Tim but until then, I guess you might have to go no contact. Hiding an inhaler when away from home could be fatal. Then block their asses. Something like if I brake this plate then dad will beat me and not mom Understanding these types of issues helped me see the patterns in my family an step pit of these roles. Right? I had a fever of 102 by the time he got the boot. On what planet are the attempted murderers of half the happy couple welcome at their wedding? This is toxic masculinity at it's finest. You're NTA. But yeah of course the real assholes are her family. I admittedly have had a few fights with my dad about how I think she treats me and my brother and sister. Yeah, like, I think there's two judgements to be made here. I would keep my future kids the fuck away from those toxic assholes. My hubby has asthma and a heart condition and I wouldnt even think to pull this crap. You should have put your foot down as soon as this stuff started. Honestly I would elope and not tell them and start getting closer with his family and make distance with your family. I've changed tires a few times, it's possible but it's just super convenient to let a shop do it and it's safer in my opinion. I agree. He didn't drive a wedge, they did! NTA WTF???? NTA They slashed his car tires, made him play chess (How does that even determine manly status the hell? Trying to punish them runs the risk of them pretending to go along with it as long as theyre forced to, then taking it out on someone (probably Tim) the second they get the opportunity. 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